“I wanted to show that men and women can be friends without having a relationship,” says del Toro of the relationship between the two main characters Mako (played by Japanese actress Rinko Kikuchi) and Raleigh (“Sons of Anarchy” star Charlie Hunnam). “Theirs is a story about partnership, equality and a strong bond between partners. It’s important for little girls to know not every story has to be a love story and for boys to know that soldiers aren’t the only ones to triumph in war.”
Nice article, worth a read. (via pacificrimbrinkrp)
Cutting toxic friendships and moving on. These past days have been so weird, I feel like I’ve taken huge steps in the right direction, for me, in so little time. I feel like I’ve forced myself to get better, to move on, to take the decisions I should’ve taken long ago, for my own well being. I’m proud of myself :) for fighting depression one day at a time, getting myself out of bed, forcing myself to do things and to be active, but allowing myself to rest, and have me-time, and take a break from everything when everything is overwhelming.
I’ve made some positive changes in my life: Broke up with my 4 year and a half boyfriend in October, cut people who were holding me down out of my life, started dance lessons, started university, changed my attitude towards my sister and mum (and found safe coping mechanisms to things they do daily that hurt me), changed my eating habits (I’m eating regularly, and trying to go for healthy food). I wanna make some big changes, like moving out, and I’m trying to figure out how to do that. And I’m thinking about starting to work, probably at a daycare or something similar, but I don’t know if work and university will be too much for me right now (I don’t need to work cause university is free where I live, but it’d be nice to have my own money to pay for therapy for example… I really wanna start therapy but my parents can’t afford it).
So yeah :) I’m determined to take myself out of my depression and push myself to get through each day…and I am trying hard to trust other people (no matter how difficult it is for me) to take care of me when I can’t.
I personally don’t think you need either of them in your life if she’s cool with dating him and he doesn’t see anything wrong with how he is.
but if you still want her as a friend then be sure to call him out whenever he says some bullshit
See the thing is when someone tells you “Don’t get mad if ____ says something” then that means that they’re putting someone else’s choice to be ignorant over your feelings and ultimately your humanity. There’s no such thing as “Selective Racism” just because its only for specific people they’re the ones that’ll say “Oh not you, you’re one of the good ones” which is in no way a compliment nor constructive to the way that you see yourself or your people.
So I don’t think you need either of them but yo can do whatever you want really.
instead of “I love you no matter what sexuality/race/gender you are!”
try “I love you and will celebrate your identity with you!”
YES. The things that make you who you am are not obstacles for someone to love you in spite of-if they love you in spite of the very things that help define you, they do not truly love you.