I talked to my ex yesterday. Probably shouldn’t have, but I felt the need to. Anyhow, the conversation was nice, and he told me stuff like “you’re the only one I’ve ever loved and I haven’t felt like dating anybody else since”m which made me smile. We talked for like two hours, and towards the end, and completely out of the blue he told me “I know you are (*insert spanish word that means crazy-for-sweet-things*)” and then mentioned his dick. Completely out of the blue. And honestly, I’m glad I talked to him…cause I just needed reassurance that I made the right decision when I left him. And can we just talk bout how empowering it was to stand up for myself and tell him “I won’t talk in those terms with you or anybody. It makes me uncomfortable.” to which he responded “….sorry”. I said it was ok and he sent me some emoji, such a mature way to handle things. And I left by saying “I guess there’s nothing else to talk about. I’m going to bed”. I felt sad after it, cause part of me wanted to go back and continue talking to him like nothing had upset me..but part of me now knows that’s the way our relationship used to work and it was wrong. I shouldn’t feel guilty for getting upset when he acts like a douchebag. He shouldn’t turn things around and act like the victim when he’s the one at fault. I cut that cycle and for that I’m thankful.
If someone were to forcibly enter a woman’s house without her consent no one would go up to her and say “maybe if your house didn’t look so expensive this wouldn’t have happened, you should make it look less wealthy” so why is that if someone forcibly enters a woman without her consent they say “if you didn’t dress like a slut this wouldn’t have happened, you should dress more modestly”?why doesn’t this have more notes
we’ve taught girls to romanticise nearly everything a boy does. when i was younger i thought it was cute that boys chased the girl even after she said no. i loved it when after a girl moved away from a kiss, the guy would pull her back and force it on. i thought a guy saying ‘i won’t take a no for an answer’ was passionate and romantic. we’re literally always teaching girls to romanticise abusive traits.